đThe rolling waves continuously crash. A pause. Then quiet. Ending with a crescendo. A flow that canât be stopped. An endless circle.
đ¶ âRound, like a circle in a spiral, like a wheel within a wheel, never ending or beginning on an ever spinning reel.â đ¶
Peacefulness. Calm. Relaxation. A pause for reflection, because sometimes circles arenât endless. Sometimes they change in size. They expand or shrink.
Me, watching the waves and thinking metaphorically... Waves are like circles. Circles are like friendships. Circles can ebb and flow like the waves.
đ¶ âLike a snowball down a mountain, or a carnival balloon, Like a carousel that's turning running rings around the moon.â đ¶
Circle. Squad. Tribe. Pack. Group. Posse. Whatever you call it. These. Are. Your. People. Theyâve been given this label because theyâre your trusted confidants.
The ones you have on speed dial for the emergency that happens in the middle of the night. The ones you know that unconditionally, they have your back when youâre not seated at the table. The ones that stand up for you when youâre not around. The ones you may only see once a year but when you do, you pick up right where you last left off.
Sometimes you may even have multiple circles, given the time, location or how you met. I have a few circles. Most all of them have changed to some degree. Because Iâve changed.
đ¶ âLike a clock whose hands are sweeping past the minutes of its face And the world is like an apple whirling silently in space Like the circles that you find in the windmills of your mind.â đ¶
Sometimes things stay the same. But sometimes, things change.
Sometimes itâs inevitable. Sometimes itâs out of the blue. Sometimes itâs warranted, a relief even. Sometimes you realize, they were never your true friend to begin with. And sometimes itâs just sad, because you know that what was, will never be again.
Sometimes your friendship circle gets smaller⊠and thatâs ok. I think itâs not uncommon, that this comes with age. When you place importance on quality over quantity and the preciousness of time. When you also no longer have time for unwanted drama or things that arenât authentic.
Some of the friends in my circle arenât in my life anymore. but theyâre in my heart. đ€ Across time, space and distance, I love them from afar.
Circles are endless but not all friendships are. If one isnât serving you well⊠itâs hard, but itâs also ok, to let go. Permit yourself to accept change, when something isnât right for you any longer. Life is dynamic and ever-changing. The same is true for people and for relationships.
Many women have shared with me, the guilt they feel for staying in friendships that no longer serve them. Because they have a history together, or met in college, or got to know each other when their children were young and started school together. Even though they donât really trust them or feel like they truly have their back â they stay because itâs always been that way.
Is that really though, the right reason to stay in a friendship that your heart isnât in? Is it âok to stayâ when you know fully well that âsheâ isnât there for you the way that you are for âherâ?
No. It isnât. Iâd rather have fewer friends whom I know with certainty have my back, than to be surrounded by a larger group of whom I question.
The thing with your circles, itâs up to you to gauge what works for you and to know whatâs right for you. Because if thereâs anything Iâve learned and what I know to be absoluteâŠ. true friendships canât be forced.
You already are. Itâs time TO BE.â„ïž
P.S. Stay tuned for my blog out next week about âseeing whatâs in front of you.â
đ¶ The Windmills of Your Mind âRound like a circle in a spiral, like a wheel within a wheel Never ending or beginning on an ever spinning reel Like a snowball down a mountain, or a carnival balloon Like a carousel that's turning running rings around the moon Like a clock whose hands are sweeping past the minutes of its face And the world is like an apple whirling silently in space Like the circles that you find in the windmills of your mind.â -Neil Harrisonđ¶
I say that itâs time to be different. Itâs time to talk about female friendships and knowing whatâs right for YOU.
_________
âïžInterested in learning how âfemale rivalryâ impacts the workplace? đDOWNLOAD my FREE .pdf guide, â5 Reasons WHY Good Women Walkâ to learn more!
Comments