A few weeks ago after taking a bit of a writing break I wrote an, ‘I’m Baaaaack’ post. I received some amazing feedback that centered around this rock-star quote,
I expanded on the quote by saying, “What if success were measured by how safe people felt, simply by being around us? How magnificently wonderful would that be? How amazing would that feel? It’d definitely be a game-changer for so many things in this world!”
Here are a couple of responses I received. J.C. shared,
“Dr. Amber Tichenor, your post really hit home on so many levels. It’s profound yet a simple basic human need. “ IF success were measured by how safe people felt, simply by being around us...How magnificently wonderful would that be? “. I for one think it would be the penultimate achievement to make others feel safe around me and feel safe around someone else. 2024 Goals!!”
M.M commented,
“WOW! YESSSS! This question!”
J.L. posted,
“Couldn’t love this more, Dr. Amber Tichenor!”
I’ve thought a lot about that post and wanted to explore ‘WHY,’ this particular quote resonated so much with so many people. What I know fundamentally for almost every human is, we give what we like to receive. A few of these core elements include, stability and happiness, sharing kindness and the feeling of safety. We want this for others too.
If you’re not sure what Psychological Safety is,
“Amy Edmondson who conducted ground-breaking research at Harvard University defines psychological safety in the team context as, “a belief that one will not be punished or humiliated for speaking up with ideas, questions, concerns, or mistakes, and that the team is safe for interpersonal risk-taking” (Edmondson, 1999).”
As I read through the comments from my post what immediately came to mind is the complete essence of what psychological safety is all about. ‘WHY’ a positive connection with the right people matters so much is, it:
Provides safety
Helps us control our emotions
Bolsters empathy
Improves self-esteem
Allows us to cope better
Decreases depression, stress, + anxiety
Strengthens our immune system and enhances longevity and last but not least....
It allows us to feel like we belong.
💯👸🏻Yes Queen, seriously! This is ALL true!
Hands down, connection with the right people really matters.
Psychological safety impacts every single relationship we have. You don’t need to have this type of connection with a hundred people, fifty, or even twenty, although that’d be fantastic if it were the case. You simply need it with your core squad.
⁉️So, what can YOU do to foster psychological safety in your relationships with other people? Pay close attention to the positive influencers in your life! Specifically, the people who treat other people right. This means observing who,
Is kind
Is happy and stable
Listens yet also, openly communicates
Is there for you unconditionally
Is your constant cheerleader even when you’re not together
Checks in and remains steady, even on your not so great days, and last but not least....
It’s being mindful of who lets you be vulnerable and feel like you truly belong.
Noticing these things promotes awareness for you to take action about who you’d like to spend more time with. Because as we all know, life is too short to be around people who make you feel bad.
A sisterhood of true friendships and positive relationships, where you feel safe and others feel safe in return, takes work, but it’s more than worth it!
How are you going to make a conscious focus to improve your connections with the positive people in your life? I’d love to hear about it! I promise you, it may take a bit of time but in the end, it will help you find the right people who make you feel safe and empowered.
⁉️Do you want to improve your performance and that of your team? I can help you! Drop me a line or DM me on LinkedIn or IG.
Today I will be fearless. Today I am grateful.
Shine on beautiful people. 🦄
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